At one point or another, we all need someone to help us through a tough time. But why do we choose who we choose to help?
Normally its trust and knowing that the individual you chose has the skill set that will help get you through. When we face these major bumps during our life journey, it is truly a disturbance. The person helping you has to be totally supportive, offer guidance, and above all, see it through. In other words, they are entering into a soft contract with you.
Sometimes we are really lucky and we get through the life conflict. The reality is, more often than not, the person you chose bails on you, fails to fulfill their promise, or just doesn’t realize the importance of the issue to you.
One of the reasons I am a coach is to bridge this dilemma. Everyone in your circle from the core out wards, has skin in the game. In other words there is always a percentage of subjectivity when someone agrees to support you from your circle. Some examples:
They want to:
• Keep you safe
• Keep you close
• Minimize risk (yours or theirs)
• Assure you are careful
• Be too involved
This is just the beginning of the list. You can add fear, jealousy and affection as drivers, never mind the darker ones.
Understand, most people want to help, but these often subconscious manifestations will not bring you where you need to go for you to learn, grow and reach a high level of success.
The easy way out of a situation is to reach out to those close to you when you need serious help. In fact, you will often reach out to those who will help you take an easier way out. Next time consider working with someone who can be 100% objective. I’ll tell you now, it may challenge you like you have never been challenged before, but the reward is a huge step forward in your life journey; becoming stronger, more confident, and a person that learns to control their own path to success!