top of their profession, at least not with the zeal previously considered. Ms. Sandberg gives very clear statistics as to the state of female leadership both worldwide and nationally. She is also very succinct in stating that there is not necessarily any one cause.
As someone who worked in the corporate world for over 25 years, I absolutely understand her reason for opening this compelling discussion. Although it is not possible to easily to pinpoint any one reason for it, you can look at several key elements that perpetuate this fact.
As a senior manager working closely with human resources, we at times faced the fact that a female candidate did not want to move to a more senior position in the organization due to one of three reasons: they were just starting a family, they could not commit the time because of family commitments, or they simply did not want a “career”. I only once recall hearing one of those responses from a male.
Two of the three best leaders I reported to in my corporate career were women. They were both strong communicators, empathetic and fair. They were also, tough, focused and objective driven.
Whether it is in our DNA, part on our living environment and culture, it is still a reality. My view as a coach differs in that I look at everyone as an individual seeking their own path.
Every person makes a decision about their journey. My passion as a coach is supporting, guiding and advising those who have the desire to be the best they can be. Man or woman.]]>
If there is anything we have learned over the past six years, is nothing is forever. Learning to take a breath and move on no matter what the situation is the reality of a not so forgiving world. Even when we feel an injustice has occurred, It is our obligation to ourselves, our family and to society to demonstrate control. Our anger that can build within can become rage at others, at many different level. It can be something as simple as opportunity in your career becomes stalled, to the much more complex. Any negative situation that arises in our own mind, needs to be controlled, no matter what that takes. We may need clinical or therapeutic help. Sometimes it can be speaking with a trusted individual or group that let’s you share your feelings.
The key element is you need to find a way to channel the anger for the betterment of your life and those around you. Thankfully, not many in our society reach the level of anger and revenge that happened with Dorner.
The point is that all the little and big situations that go against what we hoped would be the preferred outcome, are in the end for us and us alone to resolve.
Step one is to take responsibility for yourself and your actions. Once you do that, find the most desirable way to find resolve. You then can work through the issue and move forward. Life has many bumps, and some of them can become mountains. We are individually charged with taking complete control of our own lives and managing any interference that holds us back, or in this case, let’s the anger and disappointment simmer into rage against others.
None of this is ever easy to do. It takes each of us to measure our feelings and respond to them in a way that takes a positive course. If we all learn this lesson, we help all of society become less violent and avoid our own despair that can manifest into hostility towards our fellow man.]]>